Goals and Means

 “The more a man tries to demonstrate his sexual potency or a woman to experience orgasm, the less they are able to succeed.  Pleasure is, and must remain, a side effect or by-product, and is destroyed and spoiled to the degree to which it is made a goal in itself.” –Viktor Frankl

Perhaps this is the way of love?  Love given for love’s sake is great while love given for a purpose will ultimately unravel and become unholy.